Sex & swingers clubs in Oklahoma (OK) (2025)


Oklahoma's lifestyle scene reflects its Southern charm and Western hospitality, with Oklahoma City anchoring the state's most vibrant calendar and Tulsa providing steady northeastern alternatives. The Sooner State's largest city offers year-round indoor venues, sophisticated hotel takeovers, and themed events that draw both locals and visitors seeking Oklahoma's unique blend of Native American, Southern, and Western influences. Oklahoma City's metropolitan area hosts the most consistent calendar with emphasis on professional crowds and upscale venues, while Tulsa offers intimate, community-focused gatherings and smaller cities provide boutique alternatives. Hosts prioritize thorough screening processes, comprehensive consent briefings, and clear communication—expect detailed RSVP requirements and strict privacy protocols that create comfortable environments for all attendees. Dress codes range from smart-casual to elegant, with seasonal adjustments for pool events and theme nights that showcase Oklahoma's distinctive character. Spring and fall bring peak activity with festivals, holidays, and regional meetups. Summers offer pool formats and resort tie-ins, while winters focus on cozy indoor spaces with earlier start times. The scene values Southern hospitality and neighborly etiquette, making it welcoming for newcomers while maintaining the discretion and professionalism that veterans expect.

Fast facts

  • Strongholds: Metro hubs lead; suburbs rotate socials
  • Formats: Polished club nights, resort/pool formats
  • Access: Membership/screening on peak nights
  • Alcohol: BYOB common privately; clubs may run bars
  • Seasonality: Spring/Fall peaks; holiday takeovers

Prices and hours in Oklahoma

Typical covers for couples range $20–$60; Oklahoma City premium themes trend higher. Weekend doors often 9 pm–2 am; earlier in winter. Confirm per listing.

Singles policy in Oklahoma

Oklahoma City runs couples‑priority on peak Saturdays; Tulsa schedules solo‑friendly rotations; regional socials use RSVP‑verified lists. Solos usually RSVP in advance and show ID at check‑in.

Map and navigation

Browse by counties and cities below.

Top cities in Oklahoma

Laws, etiquette and policies in Oklahoma

  • ID: ID + RSVP; membership used at some clubs
  • Dress: Resort‑casual at pool formats; coverups in common areas
  • Privacy: Phones off in play; signage posted
  • Alcohol: Clubs may run bars; private events BYOB
  • Timing: Late summer starts; long weekend takeovers

Scene and seasonality

Weekends dominate; midweek varies by city size; check listings close to date.

FAQ about Oklahoma

Are pool events common?

Yes in warm months; bring coverups for common areas.

Typical prices and hours in Oklahoma?

Expect $20–$60 covers for couples; premium themes higher in OKC. Doors often 9 pm–2 am; earlier in winter.

What is the singles policy in Oklahoma clubs?

OKC couples‑priority on peak nights; Tulsa runs solo‑friendly rotations; regionals rely on RSVP‑verified lists. RSVP + ID expected.

BYOB policy across Oklahoma?

BYOB is common at private parties statewide; many clubs operate bars on theme nights. Label bottles and confirm venue rules before arrival.

Dress code

Smart‑casual to elegant; theme nights are frequent. Pool or resort events may allow swimwear—bring a coverup for common areas.

Phones and privacy

Hosts enforce privacy: no phones in play zones; staff may cover cameras on entry if required.

Singles policy?

Vetted singles sometimes allowed; check event notes.

Nearby states


Last updated: 2025-08-28



Crave OKC
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Club Crave is a discreet lifestyle club hosting various parties to provide people an opportunity to connect and explore friendships and desires. Our parties are held the every other friday of every month from 9:00 pm to 2:00 am at a safe, discreet non-public location. The venue provides an intimate, erotic environment for good conversation, dancing, and indulging your appetite with new experiences.  We make sure to provide a friendly and comfortable atmosphere. We are a private membership club.  you can apply for membership when you arrive when given an invitation.  We reserve the right to refuse admittance or revoke membership privileges for rule violations. Couples & Single Females are always Welcome.  Single Males are invite only and limited based on ratio…
Dreamers
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Dreamers hum in the heart. Stepping into Dreamers, the neon fog brushes your ankles as amber lights chase your silhouette across a polished floor; I catch the scent of citrus and sanitizer, a quiet reminder that discretion is part of the night. The lobby spills soft music into a space where the crowd reads like a curated guest list: respectful, curious, and ready for a night that folds comfort into exhilaration. Dreamers: A Curated Nightlife Scene in Oklahoma City In the realm of swinger clubs, Dreamers crafts a space that blends hospitality with a disciplined, guest-first approach. The dance floor is expansive and fed by programmable lighting that nods to mood shifts without shouting over the room; the vibe invites…
Eden
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Walking in, the lights felt alive. The lobby breathes a warm amber glow that makes every conversation feel almost confidential, and the bar counter gleams with a quiet promise of well-made cocktails. The check-in desk sits with understated efficiency, wristbands lined up like thoughtfully assigned assets, and a soft bass hum slides through the carpeted floor. Velvet seating absorbs footsteps and laughter, while a subtle scent of polished wood and citrus lingers—tiny details that signal a venue designed for both discretion and pleasure. Eden’s Velvet Circuit: What Oklahoma City Feels Like Eden sits in Oklahoma City like a well-curated lounge where velvet and chrome share a calm dialogue. The primary floor blends luxury with warmth, inviting slow dialogue, a dance…
Friendship Plus
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • The foyer smells like citrus. From the moment the door slides open, you sense a rhythm of respectful introductions, clinking glasses, and the quiet reassurance that boundaries are discussed before any step is taken. I watch the flow from check-in to the main lounge like a well-tuned convoy, noting how conversations lead to agreements rather than assumptions. Its layout—lounge clusters, velvet ropes, and a discreet bar—guides you without shouting, a calm operating tempo amid soft music and murmured laughter. People here navigate conversations with care, and couples welcome guests with a nod and a short handshake, no pressure, just clarity. In the heart of Friendship Plus, people connect. Friendship Plus in Oklahoma City centers on people and relationships more than…
Guilty Pleasures
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Guilty Pleasures is the place to meet people for alternative lifestyle activities. We are a private membership, swinger lifestyle and dance club in Oklahoma City. We have a very friendly, pressure free, safe, and secure atmosphere where it is an ideal place to meet and make new friends. We pride ourselves in offering an upscale dance social with complimentary hors d’oeuvres, great DJ and dance music, dance poles, and the most incredible dance floor around! We have a state of the art lighting and sound system, dance floor and a professional DJ playing all kinds of music: hip hop, country, rock and modern music. Our DJ plays mostly requests so the music reflects on the crowd.   We have bi-weekly…
Just A Party
  • Tulsa > Tulsa City
  • All members are required to purchase a yearly membership for swingers club sex. Single male memberships are $50.00 and Couples memberships for swingers sex club are $25.00. Ladies’ memberships are $10.00. Entrance Friday nights are $50.00 for single men. Couples are $25.00. Members can BYOB. On-premise. Welcome to our swingers club & party!
Kiss OKC
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Check-in is brisk. The lobby desk glints with lacquer as a citrus-scented breeze brushes past and the amber glow from wall sconces pools across polished tile. In Oklahoma City, Kiss OKC slides into the weekend with the precision of a well-planned wedding-after-party: warm welcomes, a curated playlist, and a space that respects boundaries as much as it invites connection. The lounge hums with confident, respectful chatter, and the pool deck catches the last gold of the sun, inviting you to test a new conversation or a familiar smile—this is a swing-friendly club that treats the lifestyle with care and structure. Inside Kiss OKC: A Swingers Club Experience From the opening check-in to the last call, Kiss OKC presents a carefully…
Night Light Desires
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Oklahoma City hums with neon and chatter. I push through the door and feel the lilting hum of a lounge as the scent of citrus cleaner meets warm wood and a familiar, easygoing confidence in the air. The lobby settles you into a rhythm: a quick check-in, a nod from a host, and the low murmur of conversations that already feel like a circle of friends waiting to be expanded. The People Behind Night Light Desires In Night Light Desires you don’t just walk into a venue; you step into a living network where friendships are stitched together by evenings of shared laughter, careful consent, and the unspoken rule that everyone’s comfort comes first. The community feels stitched from the…
OKC City Nights
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Humidity clung to the neon doors. I drift into Oklahoma City Nights and feel the room settle around me—amber lighting, soft leather, and a quiet, hopeful energy that says, “take your time, friend.” A mentor-type figure smiles nearby, guiding a nervous couple toward a lounge nook where conversations start with a gentle hello and a respectful check-in. The air carries citrus from a shared pitcher at the BYOB bar, mixed with the faint pulse of a lounge playlist that never quite overpowers a meaningful chat. This is a space where people listen, and where the circle of familiar faces grows one sincere hello at a time. Oklahoma City Nights proves that connection can feel deliberate and warm, even in a…
Okc Obsessions
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • The lobby hummed softly. In Oklahoma City, Okc Obsessions etched itself into the memory of the swinging lifestyle—a space where people swapped stories as easily as dance partners, and the walls carried a history of laughter, late-night conversations, and careful boundaries. Velvet ropes glowed amber under low lights, while a subtle scent of sandalwood and citrus drifted from the bar. I watched a couple exchange a knowing nod with a longtime host, a small ritual that felt like a handshake between chapters of the same community. From Velvet Doors to Shared Stories on the Floor Okc Obsessions sits in the memory of Oklahoma City as a midsize gathering place where the swinging lifestyle met genuine conversation. The crowd moved with…
Pixie’s Playhouse
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • The lobby hums with quiet expectancy. In Oklahoma City’s Pixie’s Playhouse, safety protocols unfold like a practiced financial risk audit, meticulous, granular, and relentlessly client-focused. The air carries a faint citrus note from a discreetly placed refresher, while amber lighting pools across polished wood where subtle conversations drift between lounges and private nooks. A faint clink of ice from a nearby service cart punctuates the rhythm, and staff move with courteous efficiency that reminds me of a well-managed equity desk at midnight. This is a swinger club that prizes clarity, consent, and a sense of comfortable control—qualities that matter as much as the mood they cultivate. What Pixie’s Playhouse Feels Like for the Curious and the Confident Pixie’s Playhouse presents…
Rumors
  • Tulsa > Tulsa City
  • Night air tastes of city rain. The door sighs. From the velvet glow, I step into a room where friendly chatter hums like a well-tuned ledger, the soft hum of house music threads through the air, and the scent of citrus from the bar mingles with a hint of sandalwood—an atmosphere that invites measured risk and warm curiosity. Rumors in Tulsa: A Night of Honest Connection Inside Rumors, Tulsa’s swingers scene centers on real people and real conversations. It’s a swinger club where a diverse mix of couples, curious guests, and long-time friends gather to build rapport before anything else, with a steady emphasis on consent and mutual respect. The room layouts encourage drifting conversations across lounge spaces, while playrooms…
Secrets – Tulsa
  • Tulsa > Tulsa City
  • Club Secrets Tulsa “where couples go to Play”   Who: Hosting a private members lifestyle for Tulsa swingers club hosting semi weekly events. Our events are for couples interested in the lifestyle, swingers parties in Tulsa.  Swinging also known as  “the lifestyle”.   Our events are byob/byol and are hotel events. Secrets has been hosting Lifestyle events for over 10 years now. Basic -PRIVATE PARTY -Membership requirements 21 yrs of age, understand basic lifestyle etiquette, No means no and follow rules of the event. Follow all club, city and state laws. This can be handled with an at the door agreement! We average over 100 couples per event. Secrets “Where couples come to play with each other”. Upcoming Events ~~~~ Tonight Friday…
Secrets TULSA
  • Tulsa > Tulsa City
  • I clock the room like a mission. The elevator sighs open into Secrets Tulsa and the ballroom glows with amber wall sconces, the scent of citrus from the hotel spa drifting down the corridor, and a low murmur rising like a careful patrol. I set my pad on the table and map the scene with the precision I learned in logistics—entry flow, staff presence, and the tempo of conversations. BYOL is stamped on the event banner and the policy reads clearly in the check-in pocket; the indoor pool area glows beyond glass doors, promising downtime after the party, while chandeliers throw long shadows that make corners feel intentional and safe. The crowd ranges from 140 to 250 guests, a signal…
Syn In Tulsa
  • Tulsa > Tulsa City
  • Syn is a lifestyle club located in Tulsa, OK, and is considered the hottest club in the area.  We average 100-200 people per party, and the parties are always “SYNful”   Doors open at 8 party starts at 9 and early arrival is recommended due to limited space in parking and seating. Being new can be scary, even intimidating. Here is a bit of advice to help you navigate this freaky wonderful lifestyle New people tend to find themselves awash in their new experiences and tend to drift towards one of two groups. Those who think they can molest everyone… and those afraid they will be molested by everyone. { Neither of which is true… Don’t be that guy / gal Every now and then,…
The Club In OKC
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • The Club in OKC is the place to meet people for alternative lifestyle activities. We are a private membership, swinger, lifestyle, dance, and Sex Club in Oklahoma City. We have a very friendly, pressure-free, safe, and secure atmosphere where it is an ideal place to meet and make new friends. We pride ourselves in offering an upscale dance social with complimentary hors d’oeuvres, great DJ and dance music, dance poles, a shadowbox, and the most incredible dance floor around! We have a state of the art lighting and sound system, dance floor, and a professional DJ playing all kinds of music: hip hop, country, rock, and modern music. Our DJ plays mostly requests so the music reflects on the crowd.…
Twisted Events
  • Oklahoma > Oklahoma City
  • Rain drums the windows. I slip through the door into Twisted Events, where amber pool of light spills over faces that carry oceans of story, and the air sits warm with citrus and the soft murmur of consent spoken in low tones. The welcome lands with the ease of a familiar chorus, and the room moves in a patient, city-wide rhythm—conversations braid with laughter, strangers becoming allies, and boundaries drawn with a gentleness that feels almost reverent. The night unfurls like a careful map, every voice a street you’d want to walk again tomorrow, if only for the way a glance can say more than a dozen emojis ever could. In Oklahoma City, a warm orbit of shared nights Twisted…

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