The Meeting Place (Decatur) Sex & Swingers Club

Address: Decatur, MI, USA
Phone: 269-657-4072
Email: [email protected]
Website: http://www.meetingplacemichigan.com/

The Meeting Place is an on-premise Adult Playground in the Kalamazoo area of Michigan. Just 90
minutes from Grand Rapids or Chicago. If you have never been to the club before, we have parties every
Saturday night, $60/cpl or single male + membership.

We are resuming Friday Parties every 3rd Friday of the month for $30 + Membership.
Single Females will be charged $20/party + membership!!!

Pay for Saturday on Friday and Get Friday 1/2 off so ONLY $15 party donation for couples/single males

Membership is $60/yr or 4-$15 installments. First time Single Males must pay membership in full, first
visit !!! Parties start at 8:00, doors open at 7:30 not before then unless otherwise noted on the events
page and go all night.

The Club is in a very large 6000 +sq. feet home. The club includes a general meeting area, dance floor, locker
room, and large hot tub area, 12 large playrooms and over 35 beds. The atmosphere is laid back and
relaxing.
Check for HOLIDAY RATES!!!!!
During that phone call, we will give you directions to the club and answer any questions. Directions will
not be given electronically!!! The phone call is merely to make sure that you know the type of place you
would be coming to.

All new members when they arrive are asked to fill out an information sheet and are given a tour of the
club by either one of the staff or one of the host couples. We ask that new members try and arrive before
10:00, that gives us time to give a tour and not disrupt others. You are welcome to spend the night for
no additional charge, we encourage it if you are drinking. There are a few hotels just a mile from the club.

Everyone should also understand that coming to a club is a no pressure situation. You do what you want,
with whom you want WHEN you want. If you want to come and just spend time in the meeting area and
never play that’s absolutely fine as well. You should never feel pressured into doing anything you don’t
want to. The meeting area at our club is much like a bar, there’s a dance floor with a brass pole and
tables/chairs. Meet people, make friends some with benefits!!! Meet some of the members ahead of
time by visiting our yahoo groups. Everyone was new at one time and understands new people are
usually nervous their first time in a club situation, and you will find the majority of people are friendly and
patient when it comes to new people. Clubs are the best initial meeting places because if the vibes
aren’t right with someone there are many like minds where the vibes might be right!!!

The number to call the club is: 269-657-4072
We do answer the phone with a simple hello.
Text 269-303-1398 for a call back if no answer at the above number (Sunday-Thursday).
The cell phone is unavailable on party days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you have questions please see the contact us page for e-mail addresses, we will however not answer
e-mail questions over the weekend. If you have questions over a weekend please call the club directly for
assistance.

Club Rules

You must be over 21years of age to attend parties at The Meeting Place.

While the staff does their best to enforce these few simple rules. This is your club and the volunteer staff
can’t be everywhere. Please be an adult with an open heart when problems arise. If you see someone
breaking a rule or you personally have a problem, let one of us know so we can handle it quickly.
*****No Social Media sharing******
1. No means NO! This applies to either gender at any point in any situation. If you are feeling
uncomfortable in any situation, a no thank you should be sufficient. You should ask permission before
touching anyone. This also means if someone is sleeping you leave them alone.

2. No illegal drugs are to be brought on the premises, This includes the parking lot. If you are caught,
you will be asked to leave and not return.

3. No prostitution allowed. If you caught you will also be asked to leave and not return.

4. You must present your membership card at the door every time you come to a party. Not
having your membership card will result in you having to purchase a new membership at the full
membership rate. Your Membership card is your receipt that your membership fees are paid.

5. No cameras of any kind including camera phones, video or recording equipment permitted
in the building Please leave them in the car. We allow you to leave the building and come back in if
necessary to check a phone, so make sure all camera phones stay in your car.

6. No smoking, eating, drinking or street clothes allowed upstairs or the hot tub area. This is for
the safety and comfort of all TMP guests. Leave cigarettes and lighters in your locker before going to
play on the second floor.

7. No cigars, scented cigarettes, or pipe smoking of any kind in the club. If you wish to smoke
those please step outside on the back deck.

8. No drunk and obnoxious behavior will be tolerated. If you need to be drunk in order to feel
comfortable our parties aren’t for you. Excessive drinking and becoming obnoxious will get you
escorted to sleep or asked to leave if the appropriate drive is available. If this is a constant problem you
will be banned.

9. Do NOT leave messes. We are adults and treat your club like your home. Squirter use pads, your
male counterparts are also responsible to respect property. Deposit condoms/wrappers in waste
receptacles.

10. No Voyeurs or Loitering in front of Semi-Private/Roped Rooms. We are trying to provide choices
to the best of our abilities. Please reserve these rooms for such choice of having as close to private
rooms that TMP will provide. There will never be doors at TMP if this is what you are looking for there
are close hotels. A quick look in if trying to find another half of your couple. If you are looking to watch or
be watched, masturbation, orgy, or the like your best choice of rooms are on the 3rd floor Orgy Room,
Long Room or Bunk Room. No Sleeping till after 2 AM so others can have the opportunity in these rooms.

***Breaking the rules will either get you a warning or you will be asked to leave. This is up to the
judgment of the staff. Continuous disregard for the rules will terminate your membership for good.
If you are asked to leave or banned from the club, no refunds on membership or party fees will be given.
If you are having a problem with anyone at the club at any time please see a staff member… We are
more than happy to help in any situation. If you don’t tell someone there is a problem we can’t help
correct it.

Some other common sense rules and facts:
Don’t take someone else alcohol, only drink what you bring.

Do respect other’s personal space. Don’t crowd anyone who is upstairs playing.

Do not discuss the club, it’s events or it’s members outside of the club. You should also not give out the
location to anyone. Kalamazoo Area!!! What happens at TMP stays at TMP.

We do allow everyone to spend the night at no extra charge but be respectful of one another, some
people stay up later than others and some play all night long. Rooms like the loft, the bunk bedroom,
the long room would be the worst places to choose to go to bed early. These rooms see activity
throughout the night, and after all, this is a swing club and noisy sex does take place.
Semi-private/Roped Room should not be used for sleep until after 2 AM so others have the opportunity
to Play in them. We know sometimes it’s hard to sleep for some people with the noises, but really that’s
why people come to the club. Complaining about others having sex late into the night is silly. There are
local hotels in the area if sleep is needed. This is the purpose of our club.

TIP:
Guys (married and single) be careful about following women around. Ladies be respectful as well. This
will not get you anywhere with them, most women will look at you as creepy or a stalker type. Instead,
take some time to get to know them downstairs before following them around upstairs. We want
everyone to be as comfortable as possible at TMP. New people maybe uncomfortable anyway, so
watch for signs that someone is uncomfortable. There are plenty of other people that enjoy being
watched.

TMP Membership & Fees

The Meeting Place is a Members Only Club.
Membership is required for access to the club. Membership is $60 a year (it is the same for a couple
as it is for a single) payable in 4 payments of $15 at your first 4 parties.

Everyone who comes to the club must pay for a membership and fill out an information card, this is
what makes us a private club. (all information is kept strictly confidential, no information will be given
out in any way).

All Single Males Must have a reservation for every party they want to attend no exceptions!

Party donations (CASH ONLY)are as follows:
As of $60 per couple or single male. First time single Males must pay membership in the full first visit.
Females $20 party donation, unless special event.

Party fees are on top of the membership fees each time you come to the club. These fees are what
pays the clubs bills and keeps it running.

Part of a three-some or want to bring a guest, please see the special info at the bottom of the page.

If you’re arriving after midnight, door donations are $20 more and there is no admittance after 2:00 a.m.

New couples please arrive prior to 10:00, we will not interrupt others who are playing to give tours
after that point. Doors open at 7:30 pm.

Occasionally we have special events and Holidays, those parties are usually a bit more and the
prices will be posted on the events page or you can call the club to find out about those nights. We
do not take prize coupons or other discounts on those parties. Our Holiday parties include: New
Years Eve, Valentine’s Day, Mardi Gras, St. Patrick’s Day, Memorial Day Weekend, 4th of July,
Labor Day Weekend, and Halloween.
PAY for Saturday on Friday and Get Friday 1/2 off, so $15!!!
You must present your membership card at the door each time you attend a TMP party. If you do not
have your card we’d be happy to make a new one for you, but we will charge you the membership
fee again as well. Your card is the only receipt of your membership payment, do not lose it.

Bringing guest information:

If you’re bringing a single female with you as a couple or single. The single female party is $20, free for
Friday Parties, unless Holiday/Special occasion. The donation amount will be posted…

If you have a spouse listed on your card but you plan on attending with another partner. Spouses
consent first by calling and another partner will still have to pay for membership or present membership
card to prove payment in full. You pay the couples price for party donation. If it is a non-member
single male, he may not attend parties without you present unless he goes through our application
and interview process. He will have a conditional membership.

If this guest is a single male, he must come in with you and leave with you.
You/HE must call every time to make a reservation !!!
Single males may only attend parties un-escorted after they have gone through our application and
interview process. Members are responsible for any single male you bring to the club. If he is asked
to leave you must leave also, so be choosy when bringing along a single male.

All single males who come to the club escorted by a couple or single female will have a conditional
membership, meaning they don’t need to call the club to attend parties. If they choose to attend parties
alone or without another person, they must have their own membership card. If they are in a FORMAL
RELATIONSHIP, the NON-attending person must give permission by calling the club.

If singles want to come as a couple, or visa versa they must have a separate membership for whatever
the status they attend the party.

If couple members split for any reason, BOTH parties must start NEW Membership. It’s too hard to
keep track of “Family/Member Dynamic” so to keep it simple if the relationship dissolves so does the
Membership. Thank in advance for making it as simple as it can be.

There may be other situations that we don’t have posted here. If you are unsure, please feel free to
just ask.

Singles Policy

Couples and Single Males party cost for
regular parties, otherwise stated in EVENTS
PAGES is $60 cash ONLY!!!
Single females are allowed to attend TMP
Parties without application. Single Females
need to call the club for directions.
PARTY COST is $20 except for Special
Occasions and Holiday weekends. See
“EVENTS” page for Holiday information and
cost.
The cost for a single female MEMBERSHIP is
$60 a year payable in 4 payments of $15.

New Single Males must pay
membership in full at first party!!!!

Current single male members who
have a membership card are still
welcome !!!!!! MEMBERSHIP IS
ALWAYS PAID IN FULL FOR SINGLE
MALES BUT application is NOT
necessary. You must call, make
reservations and check to see if male
single numbers can accommodate you.

THIS CALL MUST BE ON SATURDAY,
PREFERABLY IN THE AFTERNOON. NO
DIRECTIONS ARE GIVEN
ELECTRONICALLY.
NO RESERVATIONS OUTSIDE OF
SATURDAYS (ONLY EXCEPTION WITH
HOLIDAYS) WILL BE TAKEN. POLICY
WILL BE STRICTLY ADHERED TO OR
YOUR PRIVILEGES MAYBE
SUSPENDED.

***Couples must call the club and announce
when they are bringing a single.
Couples are responsible for the
the behavior of that single when they are
their guest.***

Frequently Asked Questions

What should we bring?

A lock is recommended for the lockers. A change of clothes if you plan on going upstairs to the play rooms,
lingerie, pj’s, lounge pants, boxers, etc within your comfort level. The club is BYOB, so any alcohol you wish to
drink (we recommend this be in moderation), ID, and an open mind. Cell phones must be kept in the locker must go
to the car to make a call, NO calls in the club.

What items does the club provide?

We provide cups, ice, and pop. On Saturday night we have food-dinner. We also provide the main dish for the
Pot Luck Dinners. There are towels for use with the shower and Hot Tub. Condoms for play, and we highly
recommend everyone practice safe sex. There are feminine products are available upon request.

So what happens when we arrive for the first time?

First, we’ll greet you at the door, please just walk right in. Then we’ll ask you to fill out a membership information
card ( all information is kept strictly confidential) and show an ID. This card protects our members from the
media as well as law enforcement, it states you are not a member of either and if you are your at the club for
entertainment purposes. It also covers the public nudity clause. Everyone must fill out this card completely, and
you too would want it filled out for your own protection by anyone who attends our parties. We’ll then present
you with your personal TMP membership card, collect the fees, and then have one of the staff give you a tour
and go over everything with you. Feel free to ask a question on the tour, our host couples are more than willing to
help make your experience at TMP a great one. The only dumb questions are the ones you afraid to ask. All of
our staff and many of the host couples have years of swinging experience and have been members of TMP for
quite some time, they aren’t paid to do their jobs, but do so because they love the club and the lifestyle, they
party and play too and can help you to feel like a member of our little community.

We like to tell all new couples too upfront, you are never obligated to do anything you don’t want to do with
anyone. A simple no thank you should be enough.

Is it ok for us to bring other people with us?

If you are bringing along a couple or single female, sure but we would like for them to call first as well, just like
any other new couple, just so we have the chance to speak with them. If it is a single male, you must first call
the club and make sure we have room and let us know you plan on bringing a single, then he must call the club
so we can speak with him directly. A single male must come in with you and leave with you and remain with you
during your stay if you don’t think this is a problem then bring them after checking for availability. If you think
this might be a problem, recommend they go through our application and interview process, more information
about that is on the singles page.

Is it ok to tell other couples where the club is located?

No instead give them the phone number 269-657-4072 or the website meetingplacemichigan.com, do not give
directions to the club or even where we are located, this protects our members. If someone wants to know a
location, tell them we’re in the Kalamazoo area.

We’re having a hard time finding people to talk with, and we’re nervous, what should we do?

Find a staff member or host couple, they can introduce you to some of the more regular club members. We
have all been new at one time and we know it can be difficult to just walk up and start a conversation. Besides
being nervous, sometimes your just not sure who to approach, and where you sit has a lot to do with how
comfortable people are about pulling you into a conversation. People who tend to stick to the back corners,
don’t seem to want to talk, this makes you look unapproachable to others. We have a great group of people that
come to the club on a regular basis, any of them are more than willing to talk with nervous newbies and try to
make you feel more comfortable about talking with people. Remember being nervous is normal, this will get
easier the more people you meet and the more times you come to parties.

What should we wear?

Our parties are much like a house party, and therefore pretty casual. We recommend no ripped up or dirty
clothing, remember a visual impression is what people see first, so dress to impress but be comfortable. If we
are having a dress up theme party you do not have to participate, but it’s always more fun when you do, and our
regulars normally do dress up for the themes so this may make you feel a little more comfortable and help you
to fit in better. The newbies who have the best experiences tend to dress up for the themes and participate in
the games. It only makes sense to make yourselves apart from whatever the planned event is.

We’ve heard that couples set rules, how should we go about that, and what are some of the more
common ones?

Most couples set rules pertaining to how, when, and where they will swing. This is a good practice if only to get
you as a couple talking. You should discuss everything involved with swinging before going to any party or
meeting anyone. Discuss your limits, and what your fantasies are. There’s no right or wrong here except within
your own relationship. You have to do what works for you as a couple, don’t let others tell you your rules are
dumb, or won’t work. You need to do what you feel is right.

First, you should determine what type of swingers are you, are you full swap (meaning you exchange partners
for everything)? Soft swap (you exchange partners for everything but intercourse)? Will you play alone or in the
same room? Do you even want to play on your first visit or do you plan on just observing and meeting people?
Maybe you only want to be with each other your first time and be watched?

Once you decide what you will do, then move on to the how. These would be your specific detail rules, such
as condom use, kissing, anal sex, that sort of thing. Decide what is ok and what’s not for you to do as a couple.

When you’ve got all your rules discussed and you both understand them as a couple then stick to them.
Don’t suddenly decide to bend your rules in the heat of the moment. We’ve seen this happen many times and
regrets usually follow, sometimes along with an argument, this is no fun for anyone. If you decide while at a party
you want to change something about your rules, we recommend waiting until you get home and have time to
discuss it away from the club and out of the heat of the moment. If it works for both of you then great change
them to suit your needs but talk about it first.

One final note on rules, be honest with other people about them. Don’t be afraid to tell someone what you
expect when you go off to play, it’s so much easier for everyone involved if you all know upfront what’s expected
and what’s allowed. Not so much room for error. Do not let anyone influence you into changing your rules to
suit their needs. If your rule is you only play with condoms only, just because he or she is really hot and you
want to play with them, but they refuse to use condoms. Don’t let them make you think that it’s ok to bend the
rules just this once. Stick to your rules, this is your life and your body, and someone else will eventually come
along that your just as attracted to that will go with your rules. Even singles should have some rules to go by
and what they expect when joining others, it’s ok for you too to let people know what your expectations are
upfront.

Is it ok for us to just come to a party and see what it’s like without playing at all?

Absolutely ok, you never have to do anything you don’t want to do. While we may try and persuade you to
participate in a game, dance or event, this is only for fun and not something you have to do if it makes you
uncomfortable. You never have to leave the meeting area (which is much like a bar) if you choose not to, it’s all
up to you and your comfort level.

I’m afraid of jealousy, or becoming jealous, how do I deal with this?

Jealousy is one of those things that happens from time to time. While this can be an awful feeling it isn’t the end
of the world. It’s all in how you deal with it. Talk with your partner, let them know why or what made you feel
jealous, sometimes the smallest thing such as a kiss or a touch can bring on those feelings and if your partner
knows that’s what caused it, it may just be a simple adjustment of your rules is necessary or the way your
partner does a particular thing needs to change when they are in a swinging situation. The main thing to
remember is that your partner is going home with you, and not the person they are having sex with. If you can’t
work out your feelings of jealousy or this is an intense feeling maybe this lifestyle just isn’t right for you, or
maybe you and your partner need to take some time to work on insecurities within your own relationship before
trying swinging again. No matter what, communication is the key here.

We want to get more involved with the club and help out, what can we do?

There are lots of things club members can do to help. First is being friendly to new club members, we all
remember what it was like when we were new, and there’s nothing worse than going to a club and no one talks
to you. This isn’t a problem at TMP, but if you see someone sitting off by themselves, introduce yourselves and
ask them to join you in conversation.

Leave reviews for the club, on our home page, is a list of sites that have reviews available for the club. New
people who find us on these sites read these reviews, tell them honestly what you think and help them make
informed decisions about the clubs they plan on attending. You should do this with all the clubs you go to, it really
does make a difference.

Let others you talk to personally know about TMP, and why you like it there. Send them our website information.
Promote the club through your yahoo ID or web page, we’ll even exchange links with you if you like. On some of
the swingers sites such as SLS, we list our events and this gives you the opportunity to sign up for them, do so
let others know you’ll be attending a particular party. If you’re signing up for any of these sites like the ones listed
on our home page or links page, go through our site to sign up for them. TMP does receive some credits for
advertising and things like that for promoting some of these sites, and if your signing up any way you can help
the club out by using our links.

Participate in the group and chat, be part of discussions, this gives people the opportunity to get to know others
before attending parties and makes them feel more a part of the community. Participate in dress-up themes and
games at the club, all of these things are planned to make everything more fun for everyone, and the more
people that participate the more fun to be had and the more people you get to know.

Clean up after yourselves, use the garbage cans provided in the rooms and bathrooms for condoms and
garbage. Put used towels in the tower cans. Our staff is not paid, but they do clean the messes you leave
behind, help them out by not leaving such a big mess, and if you see something that needs attention, let one of
them know so they can take care of it right away, don’t leave it for someone else to find.

What is the average age of people attending TMP Parties?
The Majority of our members fall in the ’30s to 50’s range, but we are a really diverse group and actually have
many other members on both sides of that average as well.

What is the Average Size of a TMP Party?

On Saturday night we average anywhere between 50 -70 people, with holiday parties, generally being larger. Of
course these are just averages and the size does change from time to time based on events, and the weather
and even gas prices.

What if I have other questions this website didn’t answer?

While we try and give as much information about the club and the lifestyle as possible, we may have missed
something that you have thought of or have a question about. Then just e-mail the club
[email protected] and ask away, or ask when you call, or while you’re on the tour at the club or
ask a staff member anytime. We’re here to help make your swinging experience a great one.

 

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