Hankie Pankie Lifestyle (San Diego City) Sex & Swingers Club
Reviewed by: Sweet Couple
Address: San Diego, CA, USA
Website: https://www.hankiepankielifestyle.com/sessions/new
Hankie Pankie has a following of over 1500 members. We are a upscale classy lifestyle group made up of couples, single ladies and select single males. Events are hosted once to twice a month throughout Southern California at a variety of venues and locations.
We strive to bring to you a lifestyle club filled with just the right amount of elegance, class and naughtiness – all in a comfortable non-pressure environment. Hankie Pankie caters to couples and single ladies 21 and over who are intrigued by experiencing the lifestyle in an elegant setting.
We are a private membership club and all profiles need to have membership up to date to attend any events. You MUST have a valid profile no exceptions. YOU may NOT purchase a ticket to an event without having a valid approved profile. Please Complete profile with how you found us, real names, real e mail, real phone number ( no private info is published) This is so we can contact you.
You must become a member to attend our parties and events. As an approved member, you can RSVP, purchase tickets and visit the Who’s Going page to see photos of those attending. All members must have an approved profile prior to attending an event. If you purchase a ticket without being an approved member you will be not admitted on arrival and a refund will be made. We are sorry for any inconvenience.
Hankie Pankie Lifestyle Rules
- Hankie Pankie Lifestlye is an adult lifestyle (swinger) club in Southern California where on-premise play may be allowed based on the rules of the establishment.
- Single ladies are highly respected in the Hankie Pankie Lifestyle Community. Stalking or harrassment of single ladies is never permitted and, if excessive, can result in temporary or permanent suspension of a couple’s membership.
- Hankie Pankie Lifestyle does not release a guest’s private information to other guests; nor does Hankie Pankie Lifestlye sell guest information. To contact a Hankie Pankie Lifestyle guest, you will need to ask the guest directly at a Hankie Pankie Lifestlye event.
- Couples should arrive and depart the event together.
- No means no, so if someone tells you no, we ask you to respect this decision.
- Whether you are a man or a woman, please ask for the consent of others before touching.
- Please respect the Hankie Pankie Lifestyle venue at all times by keeping it clean and picking up after yourself. If you have an accident, please clean it up, and/or notify staff to help you.
- All guests should respect the dignity of others. No rude conduct toward guests or staff will be permitted.
- If you enter a play area, and are not playing, we kindly ask that you whisper or do not talk at all.
- Please do not invade the personal space of others while they are playing. If there is a doubt, please ask them if they would like your company.
- Please keep your voice down outside and respect the neighborhood.
- We have a NO LOCK DOOR Policy but a door closed means please do not interupt play.
- Hankie Pankie Lifestyle has a no-tolerance policy for drugs or prostitution.
- No cameras, cell phone cameras or recording devices are permitted for use.
- Overly intoxicated guests will be asked to leave the party area or will be denied entrance.
- Arriving intoxicated is not accepted and you will be denied entrance.
- ALL guests must have a valid membership and valid profile on our site. NO EXCEPTIONS
- Excessively promoting competing events at Hankie Pankie Lifestyle may result in membership suspension.
Sweet Couple
Sweet Couple are relationship authors and practitioners focused on inclusivity and sustainable connection. With backgrounds in relationship psychology and digital design, they blend empathy with a product-minded approach to help couples and communities cultivate intimacy, honest communication, and a shared life aesthetic. Their work—essays, podcasts, and workshops—explores consent, emotional literacy, cohabitation, and digital boundaries, showing how technology and culture can support rather than replace human bonds. Sweet Couple offers practical strategies for building joyful, respectful, and resilient relationships in the modern world.
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